Children refuse eating food? Some tips for all parents.

All around the world parents are having this conversation that our children don't eat food properly. It

usually its the age group from 1 to 6 years old. I have observe many parents during my work and in friends and family. I have come across some common mistakes we as a parents make but don't realize. I can say 95% worries about food will go if we follow few simple steps.
Your child will not eat if they are not hungry:
This is very important to watch your child's appetite. They will not eat food if they are not hungry. For example:

• If your child is age over one. Cut down their milk bottles and move them on 3 times meal. If you give them bottles of milk through out the day they will not feel hungry. I have seen many parents offering their child bottle of milk around five times a day. Cut it down to three bottles . Morning, afternoon before nap and night. And slowly to one bottle a day.Its best to watch when your child have a bottle wait upto at least 3 hours befor you offer them food. When your child gets hungry they will cry and winge offer them full meal and they will definitely eat.
• For older children STOP giving them mid snacks like biscuits, crisps,bread stick setc. Offer them snack once or twice a day way before meal time. Other wise usually at home when you offer child snacks near meal time children eat snacks in large quantity so result they will not be hungry at meal time.

Set a routine:

Its important to have regular routine for meals . It will help you and save your time as well. So you can make food at once and eat as a family and finish up together. Routine is very easy to make . Its down to  you how you want it to be. Usually when children are school going they automatically follow same waking up routine in morning. So keep it up and serve breakfast and then snack in limited quantity after two hours for example two bread sticks or one apple, or some grapes. Then lunch after two hours. and evening tea after 3 hours and then night time dinner after three hours.

 If you keep 3 to 4 hours gap between your meals you will find your children will be hungry. 

Give them choice:

If you have fussy children give them choice. Give them two or three options before making food ask them to choose and cook it for them. Don't cook different food at the same time . You will end up wasting left over food. Once you ask their choice let them watch you how you making it when they wait for food they tempt to eat as well. 

Portion of food should be suitable:

Large portion of food will put them off. Children are young so their appetite will be less as well. 

Add colors to their plate:

Offer some salad and fruit and let them make their plate as colorful as they want. Two circles of cucumber , little carrot or sweet corn or peas.Even younger babies will be tempt with different colors and they will try them on. Offering variety will help them to discover new taste. But always keep the quantity low which is eatable at once.

Try out different recipes: 

Trying out different recipes keep them curious about food and encourage them to eat.But always make small portion for the first time and let them taste and if they like it you got a successful recipe to add in your menu.

Don't force them to eat:

It is necessary that you do not force them to eat all. They will eat how much they are hungry. Some

times weather, health etc can affect your appetite for the day. Like usually in hot weather they drink lots of water and juice and they don't tend to each full portion of food like they usually do.

"Kiss the clean-plate club goodbye. Not only is it bad form, in light of rising childhood obesity rates, to nag your kids to finish their food, but new research shows it’s also bound to backfire and create the dreaded Picky Eater."

(If Your Kids Don’t Want to Eat, Don’t Sweat It)
If they do not want to eat that time .Let them go and play and offer food after an hour don not offer any tings else meanwhile.

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How to encourage my little one to play

As a parent we love to watch our children playing happily First rule of play is your  little one is fed and had their sleep then only their mind will be open to explore and play. Here are some tips might help you to encourage your little one to play:
Suitable Toys:
Age group matters a lot when you provide them selection of toys or activity. You need to make sure they are able to play with them or in other words toys should be suitable for their age.

I have seen grown ups offering a big rattle to 2 months old baby who can't  even hold it . Yeah we can rattle it for them but they cannot play with it by themselves.For younger babies soft and light toys or bright color toys or handkerchiefs are best or mobiles above their cot or play mats are very interesting for little one as they enjoy watching something hanging and rotating or making sound.. If you are too much confuse so when you go to toys shop look at the age group describe on the label of toys that will give you clear indication if it is suitable or not .
Sometimes we have a box of toys but our 2 years old toddler is not interesting because the toys  are too basic for them and they want something more exploring and interesting. So choose toys suitable for their age or shop around get the ideas what is suitable for their age and provide or create similar play activities for them.
Household items children like to play: Its not necessary you buy the whole shop for child suitable for each stage of their life. It has been seen often that children play with a new toy for a week and then just forget about it or loose interest. Buying new toys is not an option for everyone. It is always best to create something what is already available. Like children like to play with original home use items as they see their grown up using them so they are curious. Best for you give them some steel bowls and wooden spoons to play with they enjoy banging and lining them around , you can add some old rice or pasta for them to mix ,feel and pretend to cook.It will keep your toddler well occupied. And if you have children between 2 to 5 these ideas are best , add some more variety in it let them use water and poring plastic jugs and cups and let them have their teddy bear picnic in the corner of your room. You will be amazed how children use their imagination.
Or give them to dress u their old clothes,hats,handbags hair clips etc. They try to put it on them or they dress up their existing teddy bears or dolls.Not only girls even boys like to dress up and use their imagination to be  a super hero or something.

Outdoor play: If you have good weather take them out in the garden let them have some outdoor play. Or simply take them to the park. Children will play good 2 or 3 hours and use up their energy when you will be back all of you will be fresh and happy. Outdoor play is very important for their physical development, And they do not get bored outdoor very quick.It will help them to stay calm for rest of the day as they have used up lots of energy in running around. Even if its just kicking  a ball or playing chase.

Changing toys:If your child is not playing with some of the toys pack them away and take them out when you think they are bored with new ones .In other words swap the toys occasionally. It will occupy them and change of toys will give them excitement. Sometime when they grow a bit older and you bring their old baby toys they use their pretend games with them.Like pretend a rattle is a magic stick etc.Or you can help them to imagine or pretend play.
Get involve: Your involvement makes a big difference.Sometimes children do like their grown ups to be involved.It doesn't mean that you have to play with them for too long. Just share some ideas and play a bit and soon they will be in their play mood.For example a bag of building blocks in the corner of your room but your child shows no interest in it. So while you want to watch your tv program or drink tea. Take bag out and build a structure ask your child come and join you and soon they will be next to you making their own houses or structures. In 5 minutes time you move around they wont even notice but they do need your appreciation.
Stay engage: Some times children do play by themselves longer but sometime your engagement is necessary. Suppose they are playing to make something or pretending to be someone just ask them randomly What are they doing?or wow its great, that's a brilliant idea, what is this your two minutes questions will encourage them to play longer and make them feel happy , confident and proud.

Being a parent!!

Once you become a parent automatically your whole life style changes.How? have a look:

• Outings: Wow love to go out somewhere.. But wait! lets think..if you are going holiday or just a day out trip, you will consider options like children or baby facilities, stuff you need to pack even if its a four hour outing, some snack for children, their sleep routine should not be disturb if  you have toddlers you need to make sure extra pair of clothes and spares bag , buggy, rain cover (British weather is unpredictable usually)blanket or jumper it might get cold before we come back .Or shall we go and have some  fun.. lets sort out someone for baby sit, we do need to provide detail and essentials even if we are leaving children to grand ma or a child minder so you need to arrange at least a week ahead for someone to look after your children while you are out.. .
• Budget: Can you cover your outings with in a budget? going with children or going without children?  Forget it lets go have a lunch outside..Going restaurant ?.. good.. But wait ...will all children be happy with the food or do we need to buy one burger from McDonald's before going to restaurant of our choice? If you have a toddler do we have baby facilities?..Couldn't find the carer last minute.. Lets forget about it..Just get a take away..
• Cinema: Yeah sounds good  but  wait!!will movie be  suitable for children? or we need to consider carer option? hmmm cant afford this time.. lets forget about it...

Oh NO... I am not putting you off from parenting... Its just some example how parenting can effect our life style. But there is something that you are blessed with and noting can replace it.. Your child!! Yes when the little eyes with a question look at you feel it.. The true love form your child without any expectation for them you mean world to them if you smile they smile, if you are sad they are confused. Look at them their little mischief might stress you out at  times but once they sleep and you have an hour to recharge your energy that mischief  make you smile and become a last long memory for you that even when you get old you recall it and smile. Like that day I was laying table my toddler wanted to help and helped herself by picking a bowl of yogurt and walked down to the table dripping yogurt all the way from kitchen to the dinning room.. Oh yes... you know how exactly I felt that time... but now when I recall this moment  it makes me smile..

Being a parent you physically and emotionally can not hate your child even if you lose something you ready to forget and forgive  and you might felt anger but their will be  always love mix feeling at the same time..which you only can feel if you are a parent.

You are blessed with a child... So feel it and enjoy it, save their childhood  in your life time memory.You will be amazed that you don't remember much about yourself how much you will remember about your CHILD..

Is Adoption the only way to make someones life?

"Adoption is a legal process which permanently gives parental rights to adoptive parents. Adoption means taking a child into your home as a permanent family member. It means caring for and guiding children through their growing years and giving them the love and understanding they need to develop their full potential"childsworld

Well adoption has two sides.. one from birth parents who decided to give away because they lose hope that they can not meet child's need and their blood is better off with out them. It could be financial reasons, circumstances or illness. In the time of child's birth they are totally helpless and give up on their child.For the child's sake they handed over them to adopted agencies or adopted parents. 

But their is the toughest decision they have to make that is legally they will have no right over their child ever again.

On the other side for adopted parents view they try to build up a child's life whose parents have given up and try to give love, care and support for the child .Their intentions are good .Some adopted parents are those who biological can not have children so they adopt a needy child and give them their name and new life.

Now as a parent my question is , is it fair on child? what if the child's birth parents get chances in future and come out of crisis but they have lost their

rights on their child for ever (though there is some openness to contact them but not legally rights to get them back). Would they dont have pain of losing their blood? Bond with birth child s is unbreakable and feelings, love and emotions can never be changed.

Now third the most important being in adoption is  a CHILD.. what are the effect of adoption on a child who is been adopted.Soon or later they find out that they are been adopted. They suffer from loss and grief,self esteem,confusion in identity development..(link:https://www.childwelfare.gov/pubpdfs/f_adimpact.pdf)Its very painful to face the reality of life.They question themselves why it has to be them.No matter how good life they have been given then too they will be curious about their birth family and relations. They will have the feeling of loss through out their life even they have been supported and understand the reasons of adoption. End of the day they are human and blood bond will remain the same. I am not saying they will not love their adopted parents they will respect them and be grateful to them but their always been a feeling of loss in their heart of been separated from their own family.

I fully agree in fact really appreciate to adopt if the child has lost their parents and become orphan and been adopted. But having birth parents alive and separated them from their family and possibly from siblings as well because their parents have given hope.. I find it a bit mean and sad.. Is there any other way? cant we help them by sponsoring them?  let them learn and grow in their own family?

Their is one more picture of adoption in the air "Adoption from abroad". Reasons are the same but their is a big confusion in  adopted child s life when a child is been adopted from a different region. We have seen western celebrities adopting children from African, or Zambia countries.  I would like to refer from "daily mail" article about Madonna adopting an abroad child.

Celebrities such as Madonna who adopt children from poor countries are doing more harm than good, researchers claimed yesterday.

They said that demand for children from wealthy Westerners means large numbers of families in the developing world are sending their children to orphanages in the hope that they will be adopted abroad.

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The report by a team of psychologists from Liverpool University called for controls to curb international adoptions, stop the "market mechanism" affecting children, and "uphold child rights".

Their view is likely to upset couples in Britain who are trying to adopt children from overseas because of the difficulty of adopting a child in this country.

The study said that adoptions from abroad are too much of a trade and do harm to the children involved.

It said: "This process has been labelled the Madonna effect, so-called after the singer's adoption of a young boy from Zambia in 2006."

Study author Professor Kevin Browne said: "Some argue that international adoption is a solution to the large number of children in institutional care but we have found the opposite is true.
DailyMail
Now from the adopted child s side Would that child gets a normal life when they want to believe that their adopted parents are their parents? and when they go in society play with other children would they be questioned by other children about parents? how would you make little child's mind understand the reality of their  life? 
Is it fair to adopt them or they better off fostering or sponsored? Well readers I leave it to you to decide.

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